Having a shy bladder can be anything from a minor irritation to a full blown problem.
It doesn’t much help to know that millions of people worldwide suffer from paruresis (the medical name for your shy bladder problem) but it does help with the answers to your problem.
You’ll already know if your bladder is shier than it should be – you’ll have difficulty passing urine in a public place like a restroom. But what can you do to reduce or eliminate your problem?
Let’s start with a few things you can do that don’t cost any money and that may help with your problem:
- Drink less fluid, especially if you know that you’re likely to have to visit a public restroom if you do need to pee.
- Don’t ignore your problem. Ignoring your shy bladder won’t actually help you to get over the issue. Sorry.
- Don’t focus too much on your problem. Chances are that the more you think about your bladder being shy in potentially public places, the more it will make your wishes come true.
- Talk things over with a friend. Obviously you’ll need to choose your friend carefully but oftentimes talking about this kind of issue helps to reduce the problem.
- Go into a public restroom when you don’t need to use it to urinate. Just wash your hands and dry them. This will start reminding and teaching the rest of your body (and in particular your unconscious mind) that these are actually quite safe places to be and that other people are using them without any ill effect.
Once you’ve tried some or all these ideas, focus on something else. Don’t keep thinking to yourself “I wonder if my shy bladder has given up being shy” or words to that effect. Distract yourself when you catch yourself thinking about your bladder’s shyness.
Other things to consider are ways to change your behavior. You could go down the route of cognitive behavior therapy (CBT) but that can be quite an extreme direction to take. Keep it as a “last resort”.
Instead, tackle your paruresis gradually.
Get hold of a hypnosis track – listening to a hypnosis MP3 is cheap and remarkably effective. It’s basically the “next best thing” to visiting a local hypnotist and is a lot cheaper. Plus there’s no need to wait for an appointment or to explain your shy bladder problem to a stranger. So give this a tryout – most of the time you’ll find your bladder shyness reduced or even completely eliminated.
If listening to a hypnosis shy bladder track doesn’t do the trick, you may need to look up a local hypnosis practitioner instead. Check out their references and make sure that they regularly deal with fears and phobias in all the different shapes these come in.